Do you ever feel like it’s all on you?
Like if you don’t take care of everything, no one will?
You’re the strong one, the responsible one, the fixer. And now, you’re exhausted.
But here’s the truth:
❌ You do not have to fix everything.
❌ You do not have to carry the weight of the world.
❌ You do not have to solve every problem.
In today’s episode, we’re talking about:
✅ Why you feel like you have to fix everything (and where that belief started).
✅ How constantly fixing things is hurting you—and your relationships.
✅ How to set down the weight and find peace.
✅ How to say no—without feeling guilty.
✅ How to let go of control and trust that things will be okay.
Because you are not loved because of what you do. You are loved because of who you are.
This week, try this:
✔ Close your eyes, breathe, and say: “It is not my job to carry everything.”
✔ Say no to something you don’t want to do—without guilt.
✔ Ask yourself: Is this really mine to fix? If not, let it go.
You are enough—just as you are.
Listen now and tell me: What’s one thing you’re letting go of this week?
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Why You Don’t Have To Fix Everything
Tired Of Fixing Everything? Here’s How To Let Go And Find Peace
How are you feeling? If you are exhausted, tired of fixing everything, tired of being the strong one, or tired of making sure everyone else is okay while feeling like no one asks you if you are okay, I see and hear you. We are going to talk about something you need to know. You don’t have to fix everything. You don’t have to carry the weight of the world. You do not have to solve every problem.
Understanding Why You Need To Let Go
I know what you are thinking. “If I don’t fix things, who will? If I don’t hold it all together, everything will fall apart. If I stop, will I still be enough?” I get it. I’ve been there as well. I’ve seen it in my clients too. Let me tell you something. There is another way. I’m talking to you and I’m going to bring you on a journey, one where you’ll finally understand why you feel this way and how to let go without guilt.
The truth you need to know is you were never meant to fix everything, but somewhere along the way, you started believing that if you didn’t do it, no one would. Maybe when you were a little girl, you had to grow up too fast. Maybe you learned that being strong meant never asking for help. Maybe you saw people around you struggle and you promised yourself, “I will never let that happen again.” You have become the one who fixes problems before they even happen, makes sure everyone else is happy, and feels guilty when things go wrong.
Let me ask you. Who takes care of you? You are going to rewrite your story. Fixing everything comes with a cause. It is the cause of your energy because you are always exhausted physically and mentally. It is the cause of your joy because you never get to be. It is the cause of your relationship because you start feeling resentful when no one helps. The hardest part is the cause of your peace because your mind never rests. Hear what you want to hear. You are not selfish for wanting to let go. You are not weak for needing a break. You are not falling if you choose yourself.
You are not selfish for wanting to let go. You are not weak for needing a break. Share on XA Simple Exercise To Release Burdens
Let’s practice something together. This is a simple exercise to let go that I do myself and I share with all my clients. You can find a comfortable place, a cozy couch or maybe a bed. It could be anywhere you feel safe. You can close your eyes, take a deep breath in through your nose, and exhale through your nose. You can do this 3 or 4 more times until you feel calm.
I want you to imagine you are holding a heavy bag. It’s full of other people’s problems. Every time you try to fix something, the bag gets heavier. Take a deep breath and set the bag down. Feel the weight lift from your shoulder. I want you to say this out loud, “It is not my responsibility to carry everything.” That’s step one, learning to put it down.
Releasing The Fear Of Letting Go And Saying No
I know what you are thinking. “If I stop fixing things, will people still love me? If I say no, will I let them down?” You are not loved for what you do or what you give. You are loved because of who you are. Guilt is sneaky. It whispers, “If I don’t do it, no one will. If I don’t help, they will struggle. If I don’t fix this, I’m not a good person. I’m not a good wife. I’m not a good mother, friend, or daughter.” What if fixing everything isn’t love? What if love is trusting that others can take care of themselves?
Let’s try something new, the art of saying no without feeling guilty. The next time someone asks you to fix something and you know you don’t want to say no, saying no doesn’t mean you don’t care. Remember that it means you trust others to handle their own lives. The best way to be okay with saying no is to be okay with rejection, too.
Here’s the hardest one, letting go of control. Letting go isn’t giving up. It’s saying, “I have done my part. Now, I trust life to do the rest.” Ask yourself, “Is this mine to fix?” Your intuition knows. Trust it. If your heart says no, be brave enough to say no. Not everything is your job to fix, and that’s okay. You are enough as you are.
Remember this. You don’t have to fix everything. You are allowed to put the weight down. You can trust others to take care of themselves. You are enough as you are. If you are ready to go deeper to truly heal and step into peace, my doors are always open for you. Join my free masterclass, Sacrifice to Self-Love. Until next time, never forget that you are beautiful, loved, and enough. I’ll see you soon.
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