🎙️ Episode: What If I’m Just Not Meant for Love? (The Truth You Need to Hear)
Have you ever looked around at happy couples and thought…
Maybe love just isn’t for me?
Maybe you’ve built a successful life, but love still feels far away.
Maybe you push people away—even when you want connection.
Maybe deep down, you wonder if you’re even capable of real love.
I hear you. And today, we are going to change that.
In this episode, we’ll cover:
✔ Why love feels unsafe—even when you want it
✔ How success can’t fill the void of love
✔ The difference between chasing love vs. chasing validation
✔ How to rewire your beliefs about love
Because love isn’t just for other people—it’s for you, too.
This week, try one small shift:
💡 Stay in a moment you’d normally run from.
💡 Let yourself receive—without earning it.
💡 Say yes to connection, even if it’s scary.
Because love isn’t about being ready. It’s about being willing.
And if you’re willing, love will find you.
💬 Tell me in the comments: What’s one belief about love you’re ready to change?
Listen now and tell me your thoughts.
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What If I’m Just Not Meant For Love?
My love, be honest with me again. I want to really ask you to step into your heart and answer this question. Have you ever looked around at people in happy relationships and thought, “Maybe love just isn’t meant for me?” Maybe you feel like you’re too complicated, too much, too different. You’ve built a life that looks successful.
You’ve done everything right, at least what the world tells you is right, and yet love still feels far away. You don’t trust people easily, so you keep your distance. Even when someone tries to love you, you push them away. Deep down, you wonder if you’re even capable of real love. I hear you, and I need you to know something. This feeling is not the truth. You are not broken. You are not unlovable.
Understanding The Risks Of Love And Safety
Something is in the way. We are going to figure it out and change it. Love can feel unsafe even when you want it. Our brains are wired to seek safety. If love ever felt unpredictable, conditional, or painful in your past, your brain learned that love is a risk. What does the brain do when it senses the risk? It shuts down, pulls away, it builds walls.
Overcoming Fear And Control In Love
Not because you don’t want to love, but because, deep down, love feels dangerous. Here, I want to try to do it instead. Start noticing when you shut down or push people away and ask yourself, “Is this really unsafe or just unfamiliar?” Remind yourself, “Love is something I can learn.” You may think that success cannot fill the void of love. You’ve built success through control, independence, and strength, but love doesn’t work like a business. You can’t win at love by working harder. You can’t control the connection. That’s why, no matter how much you achieve, love still fills out of reach.
Stop trying to fix love like it’s a problem to solve. Let yourself experience love. Instead of trying to control it, practice receiving love instead of giving it. Love isn’t something you earn. It’s something you allow. If you feel that you’re chasing love, ask yourself, “Is this love that I need, or am I chasing validation?”
This is a tough question that I want to ask you. Are you truly looking for deep love or just validation? If you don’t feel lovable, you might be looking for love to prove that you are worthy. If you are chasing love to fill the emptiness inside you, love will always feel temporary. Work on feeling desirable to yourself first. Let love be about sharing the connection.
Sharing the connection with yourself. Not to prove your worth but just to love yourself. Recognize that love starts with you. When you love yourself, love from others will feel safe. I want you to repeat this together with me. “Love isn’t just for other people. It’s for me, too.” Here’s how you can start opening yourself to it.
Love feels impossible when your instinct is to close off. You need to train your brain to stay open, even when it's uncomfortable. Share on XOpening Up To Real, Imperfect Love
Rewire or rewrite your story, your belief about love. If your mind believes, “Love isn’t for me,” guess what? You can always rewrite it. You’ll act in a way that makes that true, that love is not for you. You want to rewrite and say, “Love is for me. I am meant for love. I’m learning how to love and be loved.” Write it down, say it out loud, and repeat it every day.
The more your brain believes love is possible, the more open you will be to experience it. I want you to practice staying open when you want to shut down. It’s not easy, but I know you can do this. I’ve seen this a lot. Love may feel impossible when your instinct is to cross off. What you need is to train your brain to stay open even when it’s uncomfortable.
Next time when someone gives you a compliment, say thank you. Next time when someone gives you some little thing, accept it and say thank you without thinking about some other things. Next time your partner reaches out to you, take a deep breath and stay, even if it feels awkward, even it feels weird. Change starts in the small moment. A lot of people, high achievers, don’t like when I say this, let love be messy and imperfect.
Love isn't something you're born knowing. It's something you learn. Share on XA lot of people don’t struggle with love because they can’t love. They struggle because they want love to be perfect. They want guarantees. They want certainty. Real love is sometimes quite messy. It’s unpredictable because we are human, and that’s what makes it beautiful. Stop trying to make love perfect. Start allowing it to be real. Accept that love will have ups and downs. That’s what makes it so fun and trust that you can handle both because real love isn’t perfect. It’s practice.
Learning To Stay Open And Present In Love
We’ve covered so much in this episode, and maybe part of you still believes that love isn’t for you, but let me tell you something. Love isn’t something you’re born knowing. It’s something you learn. You are learning. I’m learning, I’m growing, and you’re growing. Here’s what we need to do. Do one thing differently in love. I’m still challenging myself every time.
Stay in the moment. Stay in the moment that you normally run from. Try to be present and just to feel and let yourself receive something without earning it. Say yes to connection, even if it’s scary, because love is not being ready. It’s about being willing. If you are willing, I promise you love will find you. I believe in you. I’ve seen this so much. Before you go, remember to hit the like button, subscribe, and let me know in the comment section what’s the one belief about love you are ready to change. I’m cheering for you always.
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