Do you ever feel like you have to be the strong one in your relationship? Like you’re the one holding everything together while your husband just follows? Maybe you wish you could trust him to lead sometimes… But when you try to step back, you panic. What if things fall apart? What if he doesn’t step up? What if letting go means losing my power?
In today’s episode, we’ll talk about:
✅ Why you feel like you have to take control (and where that belief comes from)
✅ How always leading is actually draining your relationship
✅ The difference between control and trust—and how to shift your mindset
✅ Simple ways to let go without feeling like you’re losing yourself
Because here’s the truth:
👉 You don’t have to do everything yourself.
👉 Letting go of control is not weakness—it’s confidence.
👉 You can feel powerful AND deeply loved.
This week, try this:
✔ Let him take the lead in one small area.
✔ Pause before jumping in to take control. Ask yourself, What if I trusted him just a little?
✔ Notice how you feel. Sit with the discomfort—it’s where growth happens.
✔ Listen now and tell me: What’s one way you’ll let go of control this week?
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Trust Over Control: Unlocking The Power Of Letting Go In Your Relationship
The Pressure Of Constantly Being In Control
My love, do you ever feel like you have to be the strong one in your relationship? You are the one making all the decisions, keeping things together, and making sure everything runs smoothly, while your husband just follows your lead. Maybe you even feel frustrated with him because he doesn’t step up the way you want.
Understanding The Roots Of the Need To Control
At the same time, you wish you could relax. You wish you could trust him to lead, and you wish you didn’t always have to be the one in control. The moment you try to step back, something inside you panics. What if things fall apart? What if he can’t handle it? What if letting go means losing your power? If any of this sounds familiar, you are in the right place.
We are going to talk about why you feel like you have to be the dominant one and how to let go of the control and why you feel the need to be in control. If you feel like you have to take charge, it’s not because you are difficult. It’s because somewhere along the way, you learn that being in control means being safe. Here’s the thing. Leading all the time is exhausting. We are going to break this down.
Control feels safer than trust. If you feel this way, ask yourself, have you ever felt like trusting someone else meant setting yourself up for disappointment? Maybe you had parents who let you down. Maybe you grew up watching women in powerless relationships and swore that would never be you. Maybe past relationships taught you that letting your guard down leads to pain. Your brain made a decision, “If I want to be safe, I have to be in charge.”
Here’s the problem. When you’re always leading, you don’t get to experience love. Instead of feeling wanted, you feel responsible. Instead of feeling desired, you feel drained. Deep down, you wonder, “When is my turn to be taken care of?” This is what I’ve seen so much in me as well. Being dominant protects you from being hurt. Let’s be real. Letting go of control means trusting someone else. That feels so scary. It’s creepy.
What if he lets you down? What if he doesn’t step up the way you need him to? What if giving up control means losing your power? Instead, you keep running the show. If you are in charge, you don’t have to feel disappointed. You don’t have to let it down. You don’t have to feel this way, that feeling of someone letting you down. Here’s what you also don’t want to feel. If you keep doing this, you will be so difficult that you feel deeply connected with your partner, with your husband.
Practical Strategies For Letting Go And Building Trust
You will not feel cherished, and also, sadly, you don’t feel loved because real connection requires trust. Trust means letting go just a little. When you want to feel powerful, but you also want to feel loved. As a high achiever, this is the hardest question I have to ask myself over and over again. Do I want to feel powerful, or do I want to feel loved and cherished? It’s tough because sometimes those two things feel like they don’t go together. Without realizing it, I kept choosing power over closeness, even when closeness was what I actually wanted. What if I told you that you don’t have to choose?
You can feel powerful and deeply loved. That’s what we are going to work on in this episode. I’ll share what helped me along the way and also my clients, how we learn to let go of our control without feeling powerless. Again, start small. Take that one person’s action. Let him take the lead in one small area, then something that doesn’t matter if he messes up.
For example, pick one small thing. Choosing a restaurant is probably very easy. Planning a weekend trip or handling something at home. Let him take care of it. Notice how you feel. You might feel uncomfortable. You might want to jump in and take over, but if you sit with that discomfort, you’ll start to realize, “I don’t have to do everything myself.” That’s the feeling called freedom.
I remember the very first time when I wanted to go, I left the country and then went abroad alone on my business trip. That didn’t make me feel so good. I couldn’t sleep. I was thinking like, “Silver is not a morning person. What if he couldn’t wake up and make the breakfast and so on?” I started little by little. Here I am now. I feel that freedom. If I want to go somewhere, I know that everything will be fine.
When you are always leading, you don't get to experience love. Instead of feeling wanted, you feel responsible. Instead of feeling desired, you feel drained. Share on XTrust is actually the strongest thing you could do. Think about it. A weak person needs to control everything. A powerful woman knows she doesn’t have to. Letting go isn’t a weakness. It’s confidence. Next time you feel the urge to take charge, stop and ask yourself, “What would happen if I trusted him just a little?”
Trust isn’t about losing power. It’s about learning a new kind of power. Create a relationship where you both feel strong. This one will start with respecting each other, not crossing your boundaries, and having that consent before you do anything. I always have the consent. Next time you feel disappointed with your husband, ask yourself, “Am I treating him like a partner, like a lover, or like someone I have to manage?”
Let him make a decision. Let him take action in his own way because when you give him space to lead, you get to experience a whole new side of love. The truth about letting go, I know this feeling is very hard. I know letting go of control feels so risky, but I want you to experience it. I want you to try this just once. Let him take the lead. Try. Challenge yourself. Let him make a decision. Let him show up for you.
Remind yourself that you don’t have to do everything alone. Love isn’t about control. It’s about trust. Trust is something you can build. You don’t have to change everything overnight. If you take this 1% step, you might be surprised by what happens next. I’m here to guide you every 1% step of the way. Share with me what that 1% step that you are taking this week is and let’s do this together.
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