Life gets busy. Between work, kids, and daily responsibilities, it’s easy to forget about the romance in your relationship. Many couples become so comfortable in their routine that they stop feeling connected—some even plan to “wait until the kids are grown” before focusing on their relationship again. But love isn’t something to put on hold.
In this episode, I share:
- How prioritizing yourself first strengthens your relationship
- Why self-love and confidence are key to rekindling romance
- Practical ways to reconnect with your partner—even in a busy season
- The power of appreciation and seeing each other as a team
- How to stop treating love like a business transaction and nurture intimacy
Romance isn’t something that just happens—it’s something we build, even in the busiest times. If you’ve been feeling disconnected, this episode will help you bring warmth, playfulness, and passion back into your relationship.
Listen now and let me know—what’s one thing you’ll do today to bring more connection into your love life?
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Rekindle Romance: Keeping Love Alive In A Busy Family
Recognizing When A Relationship Feels Stagnant
When our relationship feels like it stands still, we can’t ignore it. Most people take it for granted, even when, deep down in their hearts, they know that something is off. Many stay in long-term relationships because they are used to it and so comfortable in it, but other than that, they feel empty. It’s worse when they had in mind to wait until the kids are grown enough, and then they separate. “When the kids are grown and have their own families, only you and I will be in our house.” Those lines from Silver changed the way I prioritize my time. Not the kids first, but me first, then us as lovers, and then we can be good parents to our kids.
In my early years as a mom, I was very busy with my career, implementing my holistic health knowledge in my daily life and still finding my passion. I felt that my time was passing like a blink of an eye. I was busy with so many things to do, but nothing felt done. The relationship with Silver was more like roommates, a father and mother to our son, rather than a couple.
Learning To Love Yourself
If you are juggling your career and love life, or you’re a new mom or a mom with active toddlers, this episode is for you. I’ll start this episode by asking this question, and I wish I could have asked myself back then. “What do you say to yourself when you are alone and look into the mirror?” I encourage people to understand themselves and love themselves more. To do that, you need to accept yourself.
Self-acceptance is a part of self-love. I’m talking about accepting yourself as it is and accepting your feelings, emotions, and experiences without judgment. I also encourage you to do something to make you love yourself more and smile. You can tease yourself when you walk by a mirror. You’ll say something like, “Look at you.” The words I heard over and over when I was a new mom were, “I had no time for myself. I don’t have clothes to wear. Whatever I wear, I feel so fat and ugly.”
If that’s what bothers you the most, ask for help from your partner, parents, sisters, brothers, and in-laws. If you have a nanny, you can leave the baby with trusted adults and prioritize your time for a new haircut or hair treatment. Maybe you can go to the salon, have a massage, and get back to your exercise as soon as the doctor says you are ready for it. Encourage yourself to be the best version you would love to be. Find all the reasons why you want to see the new version of you.
You may resonate with what I felt back then. I felt so petty buying new clothes in that transition period, from pregnancy to breastfeeding, and the shape I would love to be. Here’s what I needed to hear back then. “You deserve new clothes.” Go and buy some new clothes that you are willing to donate in 3 to 6 months without feeling petty about it.
Rekindle Romance With Your Partner
I bought some Zara and Mango dresses at that time. They were cheap, so I didn’t feel petty about donating all of them when they started becoming too big for me. I felt like in a month or so, I was always donating my clothes back then. When you keep seeing your body shape, make it a motivation to keep exercising and explain why you can’t give up when you hear the noises in your head.
Encourage yourself to be the best version you would love to be and find all the reasons why you want to see the new version of you. Share on XTo rekindle the romance with your husband or partner, first, rekindle the romance with yourself. Remember what you love about yourself and the forgotten qualities and hobbies that you put away because of your career or kids. When the guilt kicks in, remind yourself why you need to prioritize yourself first. You only can give what you have.
When you start to fall in love with yourself, pay attention to what you have put away in your romantic life with your partner and slowly bring it back. Connect by looking eye to eye while seeing each other, adding physical touch genuinely. Start appreciating each other and stop pointing fingers. I always recommend not treating your relationship like a business deal, which counts what you’ve done and what I’ve done. “You do this. You’re supposed to do that and this. You should achieve this or that,” or having expectations for roles that women or men should have based on what society tells us to do.
We no longer live in the dinosaur era. When men hunted, women stayed at the cave to take care of children, cook, and clean the cave. You get the idea. One valuable piece of advice I got from one of my mentors is that as husband and wife, we are one team. We are in the same boat. We do our best together to sail the boat. Intimacy and romance in relationships are like investing money in the bank. When you criticize, you will take out 100 points from your relationship bank. Each one of appreciation, understanding, respecting, listening, and laughing is like depositing 100 points into your bank. In the end, it’s up to you how healthy you want your relationship to be.
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