Do you ever make a small mistake and feel stuck thinking about it for hours—or even days? Maybe you said something awkward, missed a deadline, or made a small error at work. Suddenly, your mind won’t stop replaying it:
❌ “Why did I do that?”
❌ “I should have known better.”
❌ “I always mess things up.”
You feel guilty, embarrassed, maybe even ashamed. No matter how much you try to move on, your thoughts won’t let you.
I see you. I know how painful this is. And today, we’re going to change the way you talk to yourself.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
✔ Why your brain focuses on mistakes more than successes
✔ How to stop negative self-talk in the moment
✔ How to forgive yourself and move forward with peace
Because your mistakes do not define you. How you respond to them does.
Most people try to “let it go” by pushing away negative thoughts. But instead of feeling better, the thoughts come back stronger.
So today, I’ll show you how to:
🔹 Talk to yourself with kindness instead of criticism.
🔹 Use your name when speaking to yourself to create emotional distance.
🔹 Write down one reason to forgive yourself each day.
Let’s practice self-compassion together.
💡 This week, ask yourself: What’s one way I can be kinder to myself today?
Listen now and tell me your thoughts.
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How To Silence The Inner Critic And Let Go Of Small Mistakes
My love, have you ever made a small mistake and then spent hours replaying it in your mind? Maybe you say the wrong thing in a conversation, forget to reply to a message, or make an error at work, and suddenly, your thoughts start attacking you. “Why did I do that? I should have known better. I’m so stupid.”
You feel embarrassed, guilty, maybe even ashamed. No matter how much you try to move on, your mind won’t let you. I know how painful that is. I know how loud that voice can be. We are going to change the way you talk to yourself. In this episode, you’ll learn why your mind gets stuck on small mistakes and how to quiet that inner critic. How do you forgive yourself and move forward? Here’s the truth. Your mistakes do not define you, but how you respond to them does.
Understanding The Inner Voice Of Self-Criticism
If you are a high achiever, you probably know this struggle so well. I once knew someone who had this bad habit. Whenever she made a mistake, no matter how small, a voice in her head would say, “Why did you say that? They probably think you are weird. You always mix things up.” Once that voice started, she couldn’t stop. She replayed the moment over and over again.
Here’s what she didn’t know. That voice in her head wasn’t telling the truth. It was just her brain trying to protect her. Our minds are wired to focus more on mistakes than successes. It’s a survival instinct. Your brain thinks that by reminding you over and over, you will never make that mistake again. Instead of helping, it traps you in the cycle of self-criticism.
Not every thought is true. Not every thought is helpful. Share on XBreaking The Trap Of Self-Criticism
What can you do? You might have tried telling yourself, “Just let it go. It’s not a big deal.” Instead of feeling better, the thoughts just come back stronger. That’s because, deep down, your mind believes that, “if I stop worrying, I’ll forget the lesson. If I stop feeling bad, it means I don’t care. If I forgive myself, I’ll make the same mistake again.” This is the trap. The more you fight the thoughts, the stronger they become.
How To Quiet The Negative Voice
Instead of arguing with yourself, try this. Imagine your best friend made the same mistake. What would you say to them? Would you tell them, “You’re so stupid?” Would you say, “You always mess up?” Of course not. Why say it to yourself? The way you talk to yourself matters. Here’s something to remember. Not every thought is true.
You don't need to be perfect to be worthy. Share on XNot every thought is helpful. Your inner voice is like a radio station. If it’s playing negativity, you can change the channel. Next time the critical voice starts, just pause, take a deep breath, then instead of saying, “Why did I do that?” Use your name. For example, I can say, “Sylvia, you tried your best. It’s okay to make mistakes. Let’s learn from this, and let’s move on.” Talking to yourself in the third person creates distance.
How Forgiving Yourself Leads To Growth And Confidence
It helps your brain to see the mistake with more kindness and less judgment. The more you do this, the quieter that negative voice becomes. Now, here’s something I wish I knew in my twenties. You don’t need to be perfect to be worthy. You don’t need to be mistake-free to be enough. What you do need is to learn how to move forward. Every time you feel like you’ve disappointed yourself, write down one reason why you need to forgive yourself that day.
Remind yourself of one thing you did well. Practicing self-kindness is like building a muscle. The more you repeat it, the more natural it will feel. Give it a try and let me know how it helps you. I’d love to hear your thoughts. Until then, remember to be kind and gentle with yourself. You are loved. You deserve kindness as well. See you.
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