You’ve built a beautiful life. But now you’re wondering if your kids are growing up too soft… too entitled… or too disconnected.
Maybe your daughter talks back at home but acts sweet to strangers.
Maybe your son gets everything he wants and still isn’t grateful.
Maybe screens, shopping, or big emotions feel like too much to handle.
You’re not alone.
In this episode, we’ll cover:
- Why kids in comfort still need struggle
- How to guide them through screens, spoiled behavior, and early bullying
- A tool called “The Struggle Jar” to help them grow real confidence
- How to raise kind, respectful, grounded kids in a modern world
- And how to do it without losing yourself in the process
Being a mom doesn’t mean being perfect. It means showing up. With love, with clarity, and with truth.
Let’s grow strong kids—and feel strong in our motherhood too.
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How To Raise Confident Kids & Overcome Entitlement Fears
Decoding Mom Fears: Entitlement Vs. Confidence In Wealthy Homes
I want to talk to all moms, especially those who’ve created beautiful life for their families but quietly carry some deep fears. You’ve given your kids everything you didn’t have but now, you’re wondering, “Did I give too much? Why do they act entitled or ungrateful? Will they be okay in the world that doesn’t hand them everything?” If that’s you, let’s have this honest conversation.
I also had this question in my head, especially when my kids don’t behave the way I wish them to be and there’s a lot we can do starting now. In my journey, I found out that comfort doesn’t equal confidence. I grew up in the wealthy family environment where I had everything I wanted, but my parents didn’t spoil me. Thank God for that.
I don’t have the confidence because wherever I go, when people know I’m my parents’ daughter. I assume people will think that my achievements are because of my parents and nothing more. I keep trying to prove to everyone that I can be independent. Looking back, if I could tell my younger self, I would tell her to be more grateful, have the privilege, and not to worry too much about what others may think or say.
Now, I’m wiser. I know that no one cares about anything other than themselves. Worrying about what others may think about us is a waste of time and energy. Let’s talk about the real courage. Our kids don’t build confidence from having it easy. Confidence comes from facing challenges and small wins that they work for. In the wealthy home, kids often skip the Saga. Everything’s convenient and available. A mom came to my sacrifice to serve up my masterclass and share that she was worried about her teenage daughter who has bad manners at home but she’s polite to strangers.
Another mom asked what to do when kids are very consultative. When they were toddlers, it was funny when they wanted more clothes, shopping, and stuff, but as they grew up it became uncontrollable. The kids could give them a headache when they say no to it. In the end, they said yes to avoid the big fight. Some moms worry about screen time, how to manage the two-year-old growing up in the digital world and some worry about how to guide their kids to stand up to bullying at school. It’s real. It hits deep, especially when you experience almost the same thing as your kids.
The Struggle Jar & Boundaries: Practical Parenting Tools For Respect
You saw the child version of yourself in them. You witness how they carry your or your husband’s drama. Before we go deeper, I want to remind that you can raise strong and grounded kids but not by controlling or rescue them. It’s with small daily moments of intentional parenting. Now, I want to share one parenting practice we do in our teacher community. We call this simple practice is the struggle jar. You can create a small glass jar called the Struggle Jar.
It’s time your child solves a problem. Give them something small like tying their shoes or waiting patiently or apologizing on their own. They get to drop a stone inside. You may use something else. You may use some coins or something like this. Also, the appreciation depending on how old your child is. Use the language they can understand to discuss how struggles make us stronger and celebrate the courage. Not the outcome.
Comfort doesn't equal confidence. Share on XLet’s continue to another struggle with a mom. Let’s call her Anna, who shared her story during my masterclass. This story may resonate with some of you if you are facing a rude kid at home and her daughter is polite to every one outside the house even to strangers, but disrespectful at home. Why does something like this happen? In my opinion, many parents have no idea how to create healthy boundaries and give tough love. It’s not about you doing something wrong. It’s about teaching them that respect doesn’t turn on and off based on who’s watching.
Start showing and not telling. Model calm boundaries and respect for correction. You may try to sit down as a family every night, encourage each other to say one kind thing you notice someone doing or one respect for moment you are proud of even for yourself. This helps shift the focus from what’s missing to what’s being built. Now, we go to another mom’s question. How do I raise my four-year-old without screens when it feels like everyone else uses them?
Here’s my opinion. You don’t have to go to zero gadget, but you do have to create rituals that are more rewarding than screens. Screens give dopamine, but they don’t give connection and connection is what your child needs. You may want to offer a connection swap. Something like before we watch something, let’s play outside for five minutes and just for the ideas. It depends on your kid’s personality, aides or liking.
You may want to do pillow fight, pillow fold, shadow puppets or dance to one song together. Something along what your kids love. You can ask their opinions as well about that. Kids often just want your presence, not the tablet. Another man sees the early signs of bullying and brings up all her wounds. This is not just about the child but also about our inner child. From my own experience with bullying, the first thing you want to do when facing this is to pause and breathe.
Many parents have no idea how to create healthy boundaries and give tough love. It's not about you doing something wrong. It's about teaching them that respect doesn't turn on and off based on who's watching. Share on XYour job is not to control everything. Your job is to guide your child with those. Teach them how to name what she feels and stand up not with aggression but with calm and clear boundaries. Do the role play. Play with your child at home. For example, you may say, “I don’t like that.” Let your child repeat and then you may continue to say like, “Please stop,” and let your child repeat again. Another day, you may role play the worst the bullies told them and see how they can practice responding. Praise them for practicing to stand up for themselves. You might say that’s your powerful voice and practice often. Not just when something goes wrong.
Gratitude & Growth: Ending Mom Guilt And Building Stronger Kids
The last study case before we end this session is the question, how do we teach our kids to be grateful when they have all the facilities at home? The truth is, kids don’t learn how to be grateful from lectures. They learn it from experience. They need to see you pause and wonder. They need to hear your thank yous. Thank yous from mom and father is how they learn to be grateful. They need to feel that everything they receive is not a guarantee. It’s a gift.
If you are willing to go to the next step, you may do a basic practice such as taking a short walk with your child or make it a daily habit for each of you to say three things, your grateful for now in this moment. Not, I’m ungrateful for my iPad, but I’m grateful for this breeze, the tree and we are together like for such a simple thing that we are taking things for granted. Keep it small. Keep it honest.
Gratitude grows best in the presence. Many moms feel that they are bad moms. A lovely reminder from me, you are doing better than you think. You’re not failing because your child is struggling. You’re growing together. If you show up with love, clarity, and consistency, your kids will grow up strong because of you. Not despite you. Let’s keep walking this journey together.
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