Have you ever had that gut feeling that something is off? Maybe he’s distant, pulling away, or not showing up the way he used to.
No matter how much you try to stay calm, your mind starts racing with worst-case scenarios.
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone.
In this episode, we’ll break down:
✔ Why trust feels so hard—even when you want to trust.
✔ How past experiences shaped the way you react in relationships.
✔ How to rebuild trust without chasing, controlling, or feeling exhausted.
Because trust isn’t about holding on tighter—it’s about learning when to let go.
This week, try one small shift:
💡 Pause before reacting. Take a deep breath and remind yourself: “I am safe.”
💡 Practice creating space instead of chasing reassurance.
💡 Ask yourself: Is this a real problem, or am I reacting from fear?
Because love isn’t something you need to fight for—it’s something you can learn to trust.
💬 Tell me in the comments: What’s one thing you’re ready to change in how you handle trust?
Listen now and let me know your thoughts.
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Rebuilding Trust In Relationships When Doubt Creeps In
The Sinking Feeling When Trust Feels Uncertain
I’m going to ask you one thing. Have you ever felt that slow, sinking feeling in your stomach and the quiet whisper in your heart saying, “Something is off. Something is wrong.” Maybe he’s pulling away. Maybe he’s distant, distracted, and not texting back like he used to. No matter how hard you try to stay calm, you can’t shake the thought, “Am I losing him?”
You want to trust him, but deep inside, the what-if always comes back and creeps in. “What if he changed? What if he’s not into me anymore? What if I get hurt again?” The worst part is you don’t even know how to bring it up without sounding needy or too much. If this sounds familiar, remember that you are not alone.
In this episode, I’m going to help you understand why trust feels so hard, recognize what’s happening when he pulls away, and rebuild trust in your relationship without chasing, controlling, or losing yourself in the process. By the end of this episode, you’ll have practical steps to shift from anxiety and fear to confidence and clarity in love.
Why is trusting so hard? It’s not because something is wrong with you. It’s not because you are too emotional. Remember, in another episode, I shared about how emotions and feelings are a form of feminine power. Go and check that episode again if you forgot about it. I want you to know that it’s not because you are not good enough. It’s because your brain is wired to survival, not trust. Your nervous system is designed to scan for danger and protect you from anything that feels unsafe. That’s how our brain and our nervous system feel, so we need to take back control. This is our body. This is our mind. We are the boss.
If you’ve been hurt before by maybe your partner, ex-boyfriends, a parent, or anyone who made you feel abandoned, your brain or your unconscious mind remembers all of that. The moment something feels off in your relationship, your body reacts. Your heart races. Your stomach drops. Your mind starts playing and the worst-case scenario keeps popping up. Suddenly, you are not just reacting to this moment. You are reacting to every time you have felt this way before.
The pattern you might not even realize you are stuck in, everything pops up and it scares you. I know this feeling. I’ve been there as well. It probably starts something like this. He pulls away. Maybe he’s stressed, busy, or lost in thought, but to you, it feels like rejection. You start to feel panic. Your brain signals, warning you that something’s wrong. You try to fix it.
Your mind plays out the worst-case scenario, but you’re not just reacting to this moment—you’re reacting to every time you felt this way before. Share on XYou text more, ask more, and try to close the gap. He feels pressured. Instead of reassuring you, he withdraws even more, not because he doesn’t care or he doesn’t love you, but because he feels overwhelmed. That’s how masculine feels. Emotions and feelings are not their strength. It is our power, not the masculine’s.
Three Steps To Rebuild Trust Without Fear
You have to understand this. Maybe when he behaves in a certain way, you feel even more anxious. Instead of feeling closer, you feel more distant than ever. Does this sound familiar? If so, take a deep breath. You are in the right episode. You are here for a reason because we are going to fix the cycle. Trust isn’t about making him change. It’s about changing how you experience connection. I’m going to share with you three steps to rebuild trust without losing yourself.
The very first one is to regulate your nervous system. If you don’t feel safe with yourself, you’ll never feel safe in love as well. Try this when anxiety, overthinking, or overworrying kicks in. What I always ask is to pause before reacting. You can close your eyes and take a deep breath. You can even place one hand on your heart if you feel comfortable with it or you can put both of your hands. You can do whatever it is that makes you feel good. Some of my clients feel good when they put one hand on their heart and the other one on top of their belly.
The more you chase, the more they run. Love isn’t something you need to control. Let it flow naturally. Share on XStart to breathe in from your nose. Take 4 counts, hold for 4, and exhale. If you can do that, exhale for eight and repeat. Tell yourself, “Right now, I am safe. Right now, I am loved.” This interrupts the panic cycle so you can respond with clarity instead of fear. Breathing will remind you to bring everything back to the present moment and bring it back to your body again. Remember to always pause, breathe, and not react before you feel calm.
After that is step two. You can always rebuild the connection without chasing because you are so powerful. You are a beautiful woman. You are the most adorable person. Don’t chase the man. The more you chase, the more they run. It’s exhausting. Don’t chase. It’s not worth it. When he pulls away, your instinct might be to close the gap, text more, ask more, or push for reassurance.
In this episode, I want to challenge you to do the opposite. Instead of asking, “What’s wrong?” Try, “I noticed you’ve been quiet today. Is everything okay?” Instead of sending multiple texts, create space. Let him reach out first. Be busy with yourself. Do something that makes you forget about it. Forget about texting him. Be busy. Focus on you.
Imagine waking up and not worrying about where you stand with him. Feeling calm, secure, and confident in your love—that’s the shift we’re making today. Share on XAnother one is instead of assuming the worst, remind yourself, “I don’t have to react to every feeling I have.” When you give love room to breathe, it naturally deepens. Step three is trust through actions, not just words. Trust isn’t built on what he says. It’s built on what you experience together. Look at patterns, not promises. If he says he’ll change but doesn’t, that’s a lie. Trust your intuition, not your fears. Ask yourself, “Is this a real problem or am I reacting to old wounds?” Focus on what you can control. You can’t control his mood, but you can control how you show up in the relationship.
How To Feel Secure Without Constant Reassurance
Here’s what real trust looks like in a healthy relationship. You feel safe being your authentic self without overthinking or pretending. You communicate openly and both of you feel heard. You allow space without fear because distance doesn’t mean disconnection. You trust yourself first, so you don’t need constant reassurance.
I want you to imagine waking up and not worrying about where you stand with him. Imagine feeling calm, secure, and confident in your life. That’s the shift that we are going to make. Your next step is to pick one practice from this episode and start implementing it. Start more. Trust builds over time. I want you to share this with a friend. You can keep each other accountable. Do something together and remind each other to do something different this time.
If you probably feel the urge to text your husband or boyfriend on and on, instead, connect with your friend and say, “I’m forgetting it again. I feel the need to text him 1,000 times.” It’s always easier when you have someone who supports you in this journey. Keep reminding yourself that you don’t have to chase love or control love. When you trust yourself, love flows naturally. If you need deeper support, I’m always here for you. Until then, I’ll see you next time.
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