You ever look at another woman and think, She has it all. Why can’t I be like her? Maybe it’s her beauty, her career, her confidence—whatever it is, you feel like you’re not enough.
But here’s what nobody tells you: Comparison is a trap. And today, I’m going to help you break free.
In this episode, we’ll talk about:
- Why comparison steals your happiness—and how to stop it
- The truth about social media (and why no one’s life is as perfect as it looks)
- A powerful question that snaps you out of comparison mode instantly
- A simple self-confidence exercise that shifts how you see yourself
- A story from a client who went from self-hate to self-love after chemo
Let me be real with you: You will never feel “enough” if you keep looking outside yourself. Your worth isn’t measured by what someone else has—it’s measured by who you are.
So today, I want you to try this:
- Write down five challenges you’ve overcome.
- Write down three strengths you admire in yourself.
- Look in the mirror and say one kind thing about yourself every morning.
Do this, and I promise—you’ll stop seeing yourself as less than and start seeing yourself as the powerful, amazing woman you already are.
Listen now and tell me—what’s one thing you love about yourself today?
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Escaping The Comparison Trap For Good
The Danger Of Constantly Comparing Yourself
Let’s talk about something we all do. You see another woman, maybe online or in real life, who looks like she has it all together with her hair, body, confidence, life, and successful career. Suddenly, you feel small. You think, “Why can’t I be like her?” You wonder, “What’s wrong with me?” You feel like you are behind and you’ll never catch up. I get it.
I still laugh when I think about a trip back from Milan when I was living in Taiwan. I bought two Chanel handbags, feeling so excited about them. A couple of weeks later, a friend in my fashion design class got the latest one. Suddenly, mine didn’t feel as special anymore. I felt like I wasn’t cool enough. My sweet young Sylvia, if only someone could tell her.
I’ll always be grateful for Silver, my boyfriend at that time. When I was nagging about it, he looked at me and said, “It’s so strange. I never feel envious of others.” Is it probably because of mindfulness or is it his natural personality? I had no idea about it, but that moment changed me. It made me curious about spirituality, self-worth, and the power of letting go.
I decided to let go of the comparison because I understand that comparison is a trap. In this episode, I will share with you how to escape from the comparison trap. By the end of this episode, I hope you’ll understand why we compare ourselves, how to stop the cycle, and how to find peace with who you are. I believe every mistake we make isn’t just a lesson. It’s part of our journey to freedom.
Now that I have a daughter, I’m more mindful of the words I use, especially about myself. Too many women believe they’re not happy because of the comparison. Social media has only made it worse. We see the perfect women with perfect bodies, perfect marriages, and perfect lives. Suddenly, happiness feels out of reach.
If you’ve ever thought, “I’m not enough. I’m failing at life. I’ll never have what she has,” and felt your joy disappear, not because your life got worse but because you compare it to someone else’s highest rear, you know this. Your mind is always searching for proof that you are not enough unless you train it to see your worth. Social media can inspire us, but it can also create endless ways to feel less than.
You do not need to be the woman you admire. You need to be the best version of yourself. Share on XLet me tell you something you need to know, not just what you want to know. You are comparing your inside to someone else’s outside. People often look at my Instagram and say, “You are so lucky to marry Silver. He’s so funny.” Do you want the truth? When we first started dating, he was as stiff as an oak tree. He was a very serious person, an introvert, and working through his own struggles. Those happy pictures on Instagram are just a piece of our story. When we argue, do you think we stop and take photos? Be real. There is no perfect marriage without effort. There is no perfect life without challenges.
I want to share about the “If only” myth that I often hear. Have you ever thought like, “If only I lost weight, I’d feel better. If I had a more exciting life, I’d be happier. If I had what she has, I’d finally feel enough.” Wrong. Comparison is a threat. If you get everything that you think will make you happy, you’ll find something new to compare. Have you ever heard about millionaires with private jets feeling not enough because someone else’s jet is bigger? Comparison isn’t about things. It’s about your mindset. My dear love, you will never feel enough if you keep looking outside yourself.
How To Break Free From Comparison
Here’s how to break free from comparison. First, catch yourself in the act. Next time, when you start comparing, pause. Tell yourself, “Stop,” and then ask, “Will I trade my entire life for hers? Will I give up my loved ones for that? Do I even know her full story?” The moment you question comparison, you take back the control in your hands. The second one is to refocus on your own journey. Instead of asking, “Why am I not like her?” You may ask, “What have I overcome? How have I grown?” Let’s try something together. Write down five challenges you’ve overcome and three strengths you admire in yourself, and then say, “I’m so proud of who I am becoming.”
You don’t have to stay trapped in comparison or wait until you are better to feel enough. You can take back control right now. Share on XThe third one is to see from comparison to appreciation. The next time you see a woman you admire, instead of thinking, “I wish I were her,” remind yourself, “I don’t need to be her. I need to be the best version of me.” This takes practice. Here’s how. Every morning, look in the mirror and say something kind about yourself. Every night, write down one thing you love about your personality. When comparison speaks in, say, “I’m enough as I am.”
One of my clients came to me after chemotherapy. She had lost her hair and felt like she had lost herself as well. She struggled to look in the mirror. She criticized her reflection. We started small. One day, she noticed something, her smile. From there, she began to see more. Her eyebrows, her skin, and her eyes, and then, something powerful happened. She realized the greatest miracle of all. She was alive. God has given her another chance to love, heal, and see herself again. Watching her transformation from self-hate to self-love was one of the most beautiful moments of my life.
You Are Enough Exactly As You Are
You are enough as you are. You learned something very powerful. You don’t have to stay trapped in comparison. You don’t have to wait until you are better to feel enough. You can take back your control at this moment. If you are ready to go deeper and truly step into your power, my doors are always open to welcome you into the We Love Circle Sisterhood Community. Until then, never forget that you are beautiful, you are loved, and you are enough as you are. I’ll see you soon. Bye-bye.
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